Alex adopted me a number of years ago. He actually belonged to the neighbor on the east side of me, yet spent hours hanging
out with his kitty friends that lived with my neighbors to the west. He traveled through my yard going back and forth between
home and friends.

At that time I had been laid off at work and was spending more time in my home office and patio area. Alex began spending more and more time on one of my Adirondack chairs, during which we had great conversations. He is very vocal and expressive. He also started to follow me into the house. He was unbelievably well mannered. I set out a water bowl for him. I was also rather allergic to him.

An allergy prescription and a year later, I set out a food bowl. I still cannot keep Alex in the house overnight (swollen yucky eyes and congestion issues). Yet he knows that he is welcome to join his kitty friends next door in a comfy kitty igloo in the kitties’ house. It’s a perfect arrangement.

Friday, August 23, 2013


I love early morning – it’s a lovely time for reflection. This morning as I watched the sky and the clouds change color and the horizon brighten a wonderful thought formed and then expanded to a joyous outcome that I simply must share…

It is a beautiful August morning and I am in the process of beginning a whole new chapter of my life. I am very excited!

Following is a brief review of recent actions that are the impetus for my new beginning. In my experience there is usually an ending of some kind before a new start begins; I was pretty much blindsided by the ending I am experiencing.

A dear friend of twenty-two years decided to end our friendship and did so in the most negative of ways:
  • She betrayed our friendship,
  • she betrayed my trust,
  • she purposely betrayed my confidences,
  • she purposely caused me to loose my employment,
  • she sneaked into my yard and stole my precious pet and still holds him hostage,
  • she called the police to trespass me when I knocked on her door to inquire when I might see my sweet kitty,
  • she takes the meanest and most negative action and obtains a protective order against me swearing (in a legal document) that she fears I will harm her physically or even cause her death!
  • weeks ago she trotted down and across the street, where the two ‘neighborhood gossips’ (2 guys) were sitting and told them lies about me.

Her betrayal is complete!! I now perceive her as a nasty prevaricating mean old woman. 

I don’t want to see her. 
I don’t want to live next door to her. 
I don’t want to have any kind of association with her.
I don’t want to ever see her again.
I feel great pity for the toxic person she is.


The “for lease” sign is planted firmly in my front yard! I’ve already signed the lease for my new digs…. There are a few loose ends to tie up and a couple of regrets – I have mostly accepted that I will not see my sweet dear Alex the Kitty again or be able to throw my arms around the lovely man who has been a wonderful neighbor and role model of what/how a man should act, to my daughters when they were young. I will be forever grateful to him for teaching me college algebra (grade: A) during my senior year at UNLV (non-traditional student), and reading/editing all my papers and especially my graduate thesis!!! I am heartbroken that I will not be allowed to see him or be able to kiss his dear sweet old cheek and tell him goodbye.

Moving boxes are filling up, the truck is reserved, the moving crew is on alert and I’ve just finished a couple of painted furniture projects! The ‘possibilities’ in my new chapter’s direction are adding up daily and I am so ready to start exploring those possibilities and ‘go with the flow’…. Life is good!

Since I am moving from this location and I no longer have “My Buddy Alex” to inspire me or blog about - this blog will cease….thank you for your interest dear readers.


Tuesday, August 20, 2013


Her name is

She has been 
dropping by to visit
2 or 3 times a week
for the past

believe that
somehow she senses
my great sadness over the 
loss of Alex...

she is a lovely girl...

Monday, August 19, 2013


My Heart Aches...

it's been
61 days

since I last saw

Thursday, August 15, 2013


Late January – Early February: Friend/neighbor ramps up obsession with shop that I am employed at. Instead of 2 or 3 time a week for a couple of hours; she starts coming 3 or 4 times/week for 2-3 hours each time (she is “volunteering”).

End of March: Friend/neighbor is now “volunteering” at my place of employment at least 5 days a week and close to 4 hours a day.

April: I kindly express to friend/neighbor that I fear for my job because she is spending so many hours “volunteering” at my place of employment. She becomes very angry (it’s all about her and what she wants). She knows I need the job and yet she talks to my employer and makes this personal issue between us – public. As I have stated before it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to make a decision between paying someone or taking advantage of free labor. I am now out of a job.

May: I was fired one week prior to knee surgery – work related injury. I am upset. My friend/neighbor has stopped speaking to me and now has a new BFF – the shop owner. They are both nasty to me. The shop owner did not pay my full salary or full commission for my desk that sold.  Mind you she has the benefit of my work product and her full commission from my desk. When it became apparent that she was not going to ‘take care of business,’ I filed a small claims court action. She retaliated with a protective order (judge set it aside). To this day I have not received what is due me (she asked for delay – court date in September).

June: Neighbor/former friend now spends 5-6 days a week and 4-5 hours a day at shop (says husband with Alzheimer’s is home sleeping). He is not sleeping the whole time – he is wandering outside and/or on multi-level deck…sooooo hazardous! As it was with me – she doesn’t care!! It’s all about her and what she wants!!

Mid June: she literally sneaks into my yard and steals my wonderful pet – Alex the Kitty – from my front planting bed! I sent several texts – then knock on front door. She calls the police and I’m given a “trespass notice.” A couple of days later I’m served with a protective order (sound familiar – new BFF had visited). In the order, former friend states that she fears bodily harm/death from me and she includes Alex as part of who needs protection! I have not seen him for over 55 days. She is a cruel person, lacking in empathy and compassion! She is totally unbalanced or has suffered mini-stroke(s) or she is afflicted with her own dementia or she has just become a nasty, mean, old toxic person!!! 

Monday, August 12, 2013


An untrue statement

Several weeks ago 'my former friend'
trotted down to visit
with the 
two old neighborhood
and spread falsehoods...

she told them she
rescued Alex from death's door...

mind you Alex spends his nights
with the kitties at her home...

My question is why did she have to 
rescue him... 
(stealing him from my yard)
she told the old fools
that I had kept Alex from going to her house.

As I have done every evening for years
I put him outside... 
he walked
over to her house and sat
on the seat under the window 
closest to my house...

She was aware that he could
no longer jump the fence
between our houses...

I strongly feel that she either forgot
that he could no longer jump...
because she was too
'wined' up...


she forgot to open her front door and 
let him in...
because she was too
'wined' up...

After all she does like her
multiple glasses of wine
every night
and with that 
consumption she forgot to 
let Alex in and
forgot to give him his

Shame on her!

For her lies and her lack of care
of Alex!
and she is still holding him hostage...

Saturday, August 10, 2013


There is 

She stole Alex 
from my yard!
ran back to 
her house...
and still holds my 
sweet pet


Her actions are 

Friday, August 9, 2013


 From Shakespeare's  Romero and Juliet

the argument centers around... 
the name of things does not really matter
rather only what things really 'are'...

this individual will know full
well what her new name

and who she really is...

Tuesday, August 6, 2013


How mean-spirited
cruel and 
is the person 
who calls the police on 
the friend whom she has
totally betrayed

simply because the 
betrayed friend misses her
sweet pet
Alex the Kitty

that the betrayer stole
from the betrayed's 
yard nearly 
50 days ago...

Saturday, August 3, 2013


Twenty two years
of friendship

then she 
betrayed my trust
betrayed my friendship
betrayed my confidences


she crept into
my yard and
my sweet pet

and when I
tried to contact her
(texting – knock on door)
so I could see my dear
furry creature

she obtained a
against me…

Could there be any greater
betrayal than
to swear (legal document)
that she feared I would be capable
of causing her harm - even death?

What an evil, nasty person she
has become…
she lies to our neighbors
and yet she will put
on her phony persona and
act as if nothing
was amiss…


Wednesday, July 31, 2013


and lacking 

My sweet
Buddy Alex
is still 
being held


Monday, July 29, 2013


I was looking for
a pen that had
rolled under 
the sofa...

when I pulled 
out Alex's 
little catnip toy


today marks
40 days
since I last saw my 
sweet Alex...